"It"

​What a wild thought it is to “almost have it.” Yet, it is something we have all gone through and Adell and Taylor Swift have mad millions off of albums about almost having “it.”  Whether “it” is, a relationship, job, or your hearts greatest desire, it is an encompassing feeling. Often times we become obsessed with the idea of just how close we were to that feeling of success or the comfort of having your life planned out perfectly. Sometimes even years from now we will still be able to feel the tingle in our fingers, the sweetness on our tongue, and the last breath in our lungs just before we lost “it.” However, it is a quiet humbling experience losing “it.” It is reminder that we are human, and that as much as we like to think we have it figured out, or that we are beating the system. In fact, it proves as a reminder from the great powers above or within (whatever it is you may believe in) that we are not in control. Blame it on the timing, something you had said, or maybe the fact that it had been a rainy day. Sometimes things aren’t just supposed to go that way.
 
However, losing “it” can’t make you a cynic. It has to be a reminder that maybe part of the reason we are “here,” on Earth in this bodying experience, is to learn.  Learn to get better. Whether it be to find happiness in yourself, to truly love yourself, or to just learn how to pick things back up when they fall apart.
 
Remember when you lose lose “it” to breath. It is ok. Whatever “it” was it didn’t define you and you were, are, and always have been a great person. Remember that the best way to recover from losing “it” is to take the time to mourn the loss. Whether it be a day, month, or years one day you will wake up and be ok with losing “it.” Remember to learn from the experience. This doesn’t mean to dissect everything that was said and do, but rather to take what you loved from it and understand what you learned and where you have room to grow. None of us are perfect in fact that is the beauty in life and according to science perfection and symmetry actually kind of freak us out (this was in regard to facial symmetry, but truthfully can be applied to life in general). Remember after all is said and done to look at the bigger picture. Never let one moment define you. You are human and no human should ever be defined by one moment. It’s cool to give yourself a pep talk. I once read that Victoria Beckham repeats to herself everyday, after a big breath, the line “I know what I want.” You do know what you want and whether it is love or a job that one moment of losing “it” doesn’t mean you lost your goal, but rather you learned from that one experience and it’ll make reaching your goal just that much sweeter.  ​